Become ok with being disliked
I don’t know about you, but to me the dominant culture of being liked + approved of - especially on the social media circuit - feels like a popularity contest hopped up on steroids.
This is colonizer culture 101: where our priceless + indestructible innate self-worth is put under the absurd guillotine of external approval.
I won’t go into the very real mental health challenges this causes to people- most especially young people - there’s abundant research on the topic available online.
Instead - what I’d like to focus on today is the truth that:
Your soul did not come here to be liked.
Your soul came here to create, express and embody the Mystery of Her own unique + evolving fractal-form of meaning.
She/you came here to be in relationship with the good-bad wholeness of yourSelf, to inhabit the paradox of being in spiralling union with the larger Divine context of who You are - while being fully present + embodied in this 3D experience of physical incarnation, and all its sensational peaks, plateaus and troughs.
To your soul, being liked is so incidental as to barely even be a consideration.
Because: to be ok with being rejected, disliked, disapproved of - indeed to actually be in deep, embodied approval of being disliked - takes courage. And your soul + her desire to experience the rollercoaster-ride of incarnation is anything if not bold, big-hearted courage.
In order to start coming into deep approval of the sensation of being disapproved of we must learn to create more capacity in our colonized nervous systems.
Through very real karmic, ancestral, generational + this-life traumas, we have been tranced into believing that our very lives and survival depend upon external approval - resulting in constricted, tapped out nervous systems.
Imagine for a moment the feeling of being disliked, of being “cancelled”, shamed, ridiculed, silenced?
It feels very much like a sort of death - to your colonized/colonizer ego, whose sense of self + worth is intimately bound up with being liked.
It doesn’t feel safe at all.
But this sort of death is necessary if your ego is to be reborn, this time in service of your soul, and your larger Self - your mythic Self, to be precise.
The truth is, whenever you do anything unapologetically in service of your soul - and by extension the World Soul, the Anima Mundi - you will be disliked (more on that in a future transmission).
This will hurt and feel like a sort of dying.
The good news is that this is a sign that you are in thriving relationship to yourSelf and your cosmic context of meaning + that this is fertile opportunity to lean into creating capacity for this intense, sensational experience = the ability to remain in loving, compassionate presence to All that You are = more revelations of meaning and magic to co-create your reality with.
But first - we have to consciously unhook from the programming that we need external approval in order to survive. Because by believing this, we cannot thrive. We are shutting our souls away in a moldy old dungeon and siphoning her power out to external forces of fear-based control + manipulation.
Imagine if you will, a person so deeply ok with being disliked. It’s very difficult to siphon away their power, to control or manipulate them into playing enslaving games of survival.
After all, they’ve already died, over and over.
This is the decolonized psyche, the liberated soul.
And this is what we’re journeying into in ROOT + RISE - a space where you will be guided, held and supported within an intentional community as you move into and through cycles of mythic, meaningful soul-making.
We begin on 1 December. Doors are open now for enrollment.